How to Appreciate Your Body In a Perfection-Driven Culture
Sometimes when I need some inspiration to drink my green smoothies and get my daily sweat sesh in...I head to Instagram or Pinterest for some visual motivation.
Yet, when I'm being honest...I feel mixed feelings when I see a lot of the "inspo" we are constantly being bombarded with--like the images of the hot chick with perfect abs, perky size D breasts, and seemingly not a stretch mark anywhere in site on her body. And even while I'm pregnant--the "inspiration" that pops up when I search ideas like 'healthy pregnancy' are things like "How to have a belly-only pregnancy"... UM-- I will have any type of pregnancy my baby needs from me to grow and be healthy, thank you very much!
Seriously, I ate well, worked out, and still gained 60 pounds each of my previous two pregnancies. I don't believe aiming for a "belly only pregnancy" is ideal for most women.
But I digress.
While the belly-only-pregnant-woman and Instagram model are gorgeous and worthy of being celebrated--so is the woman who is 275 pounds, making better choices to live a healthier life.
So is the mom who gained 50 pounds all over during her pregnancy.
So is the woman who has loose skin and stretch marks from carrying her babies...
So is the woman who strong, athletic, and natural!
Nowadays, I feel as though the most celebrated bodies are those based off the idea of perfection and--as a fitness and lifestyle coach who's been immersed in this game over 6 years, there are lots of things women in the industry are willing to do that leave me wondering...
What are our daughters learning from all this?
As a mom to a 3 year old girl who is constantly watching me and learning how to be in this world, I aim to be extra careful in how I talk about my body in her presence. So many women beat up on themselves saying things from "Ugh I'm so fat", to "I feel ugly!"--we can't expect to produce little girls who evolve into strong, self loving women if we don't show them how to do so.
I get it. It's hard to be a self loving, body positive woman. We are judged first based on our looks before anything else as women. But we have to find our motivation for working out and eating well from intrinsic means--not extrinsic if we want to not only look good, but be happy and joyful in the process.
In other words--don't let your desire to please others EVER be the reason you decide to get healthy or feel more beautiful in your own skin. Your desire to change needs to stem from an internal drive to live longer, be more energetic, and be the best version of yourself.
So, the next time you're in the bathroom and you look yourself in the mirror and you're tempted to bash your body, instead, try some self love one of these affirmations:
I am grateful for my body for all it does for me.
I am comfortable in my own skin.
I am a beautiful, strong, healthy goddess!
If pregnant: I am a divine vessel to carry and nurture life!
Let your next workout program be born from that place, and not from a place of self loathing. You'll be more likely to stick to it, and your kids will see mom in her best--shining with self love!
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