Our Date Night + 5 Tips to Keep Your Marriage Spicy (Even With Kids!)

Elvis & Monica (Mom + Dad)

Making time for marriage when you have a house full of kids isn't easy. And when life is busy, it's common to let the relationship with your spouse fall by the wayside for more "important" tasks. While I love my 4 children with all my heart and put them first in many ways, they need parents who are happy too. For that reason and more, Elvis and I always strive to fall in love over and over. And one thing that's helped us do this? Date night, baby.

Check out my 5 tips below to keep your marriage spicy (even with kids):

Date your spouse religiously

If you don't prioritize romance and pleasure in your marriage, who will? When you're 90, you won't regret the time spent having fun in this department.

Keep your own identity outside of motherhood

If you know me, you know I love being a mom. But 'mother' isn't my only archetype. I'm also a wife, businesswoman, creative, etc... having my own passions and hobbies keeps me busy so I'm not needy. This helps keep attraction alive in marriage.

Dress up for yourself (and him)

Some people think you should only "try" when your other half is around...I disagree. I aim to feel good about myself when my husband and I are apart too. So whether I'm going grocery shopping, on a play date, or out with a friend, chances are I'll still put in effort in how I look--a bit of makeup, clean 'fit, some earrings, and more jewelry. On fancier nights, I'll pull out a dress and heels (which he loves).

Dance for him

I'm not saying you have to dance like a Pussycat doll here ;) but what I am saying is all men love a good show. Remove any (perhaps subconscious) desire for him to see a private dancer by being one. When I dance for Elvis it feels like time stops. I love the looks he gives me! So we dance often. But do what works for you. Maybe Friday night you can turn your bedroom into a nightclub while the kids are sleeping (quietly of course!)

No phone zone

Unless we're snapping a pic or checking on our babies, you'll rarely find us on the phone during date night. We're both very busy, so we aim to minimize distractions when we finally have a moment to just be us. Not looking at your phone during date night implies: You matter. My eyes and focus are on you.

There you have it, beauties! My 5 tips to keep your marriage spicy. Don't let the culture fool you--you can still have fun in a long term committed covenant.

Love ya!

Monica